Happiness (Part 1)

Do you have lazy weekends where you wake up in the morning not knowing what to do or how you are going to go through the day? Then having nothing to do, you slouch in front of the television or open a random site spending hours at it.

I've spent countless such weekends. These weekends are a result of you being unable to enjoy your own company.

When you are working time tends to fly. People do the work of keeping each other busy and distracted.

Most environments and work cultures do an strange job at it. "The client needs this by end of the week", "the boss wants the spread sheet by the end of the week".

The sentences fool us into believing we are doing something hugely important. In more cases than some we aren't really changing the world or even doing real work. We are just using work as an excuse for indulging in distractions so that we don't have to confront ourselves. That is why when a lazy weekend shows up we don't know how to react.

We've become so tuned to working in a default mode driven by extrinsic factors that we've stopped enjoying our own company. We've stopped seeking friendship from other human beings. We've started to materialize every relationship in our lives and we have started measuring what each relationship and friendship brings to the table. What's the point of the friendship? Where does this lead to? Where does this end? Why am I wasting time on this friendship. You've asked these questions to yourself! You know what I am talking about! Don't you?

There are two take aways I had from this weekend. One was that I overcame a fear of enjoying my own company. I went to a movie without any other human being accompanying me and as strange as it might sound the experience was a whole lot of fun. Second was a realization that if you find weekends or lone time depressing, watching television or a stupid porn site isn't an answer to your problems. As human beings we weren't meant to be sedentary creatures. We're supposed to be on the move. So if you are feeling down and low on a weekends here is my advice, grab a cycle, go for a run, go for a walk or go watch a movie in a theatre.

The point is get your butt outside the safety of your house and start enjoying the time that you spend when you don't have the company of another human being. Not being needy and learning how to do things that you always wanted to do can be fun.

Having said that however, for that to happen you will have to stop slouching in front of the television, leave the comfort of your house and learn to enjoy the time that you spend with yourself. If you don't enjoy your company do you really expect others to? Just saying.